Good Friends

Friends are important. They keep you company when you’re feeling lonely. They cheer you up when you’re feeling down. Friends make everything more fun. How can you make and keep friends? TIME for Kids spoke with Deborah Gilman. She’s a child psychologist. “Friendship is like any other skill that you have to practice,” she says. Read on for more of her expert advice.

Deborah Gilman is a psychologist. She helps kids manage their feelings.

What are some ways to make new friends?

Making a friend can start with one small step. Walk up to someone. Tell them your name. Compliment them, or ask them to play. Friendship starts with saying hello and showing an interest in someone.

Friends help others feel good about themselves.

How can I be a good friend?

There are lots of ways. A good friend is kind. They listen when other people are talking. Good friends help others feel good about themselves. If a good friend makes a mistake, they say they are sorry. They treat others the way they want to be treated.

A good friend is kind and takes the time to listen.

What if my friends and I like different things?

You don’t have to like the same things to be friends. You can learn about different things from your friends. They can help you try new things. That’s what makes friendship special.

Friends might have different skills and hobbies. They can teach each other new things.

What should I do if someone doesn’t want to play with me?

This can hurt your feelings. But try to find another group to play with. Be open and brave. Some kids like to play alone. Remind yourself that not everyone will be your friend. And that’s okay.

Making a new friend is as easy as saying hi to someone new.

This interview has been edited for length and clarity.